Your best bet is to find an alliance that has space for you to build
and can suggest where to start and how to get to wherever they are.
A package deal.
Some of the starting cities have some fighting around them. It can be
difficult to know what's going on without being there yourself; if you
believed everything you read about my alliance, for example, we're
killing thousands of newbie nobles in Yellowleaf, yet it's actually
quite calm (and I'm still looking for email from anyone who thinks we
attacked them by accident...)
-- Oleg the Loudmouth, living up to his name